There are many different elements to becoming successful in business and some of them are not so obvious at first. As this blog is case
study in building a successful online business, it seems appropriate to share some of the things that I have learnt and continue to learn
on my journey. The Optimizing Success series will share you ideas, skills, approaches and mindsets that I have learnt, that can help you (and me) to achieve all the things we want to, both in business and in life. Who knows how many blogs will be included in this series, they say that learning is a lifelong activity so it could be quite a few!
Being responsible for yourself
Being responsible for yourself, your actions and your situation is an important, yet one of the most difficult ideas to get your head around. As Jim Rohn once said;
‘You must take responsibility. You can not change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you can change yourself’
The blame game is something we have all played at one time or another. If something has gone wrong or not worked out the way we wanted it to, we immediately look for someone or something to blame. The old saying ‘a bad workman blames his tools’ sums this up nicely. It’s not really the tools fault, it’s the workmans. People find it very difficult to look within as a cause to whatever problem they have.
When it comes to internet marketing the blame game is in full swing. A quick look at any forum or group and you with see excuses coming thick and fast as to why people are not seeing the success they want; the product doesn’t work, I was mislead, the niche is too competitive, you’ve got to get in early to be successful, and on and on. Sound familiar? I hold my hands up, this has been on more than one occasion, and guess what? It did not get me anywhere.
The thing that I have come to realise is, if my business is not where I want it to be, if I am not earning the money I want, or growing my list as fast as I want, it’s not because of anyone else, it’s because of me. I am the only person who can do anything about this. I have a mentor who is helping me on my journey, but he is not going to build my business for me, or grow my list for me. I still have to do that.
When you think about people who have achieved great things against all the odds, things that people said were not possible or couldn’t be done, well they wouldn’t have achieved these things by playing the blame game. For example, surfer Bethany Hamilton who had her arm bitten off by a shark, 2 years later she won first place in a surf competition. How easy would it have been for her to use the loss of her arm as an excuse not to surf anymore?
Bill Gates one of the richest men in the world had a disaster first business that failed. His product didn’t work and he couldn’t sell it or make any money. He didn’t blame his then business partner or the quality of the software he was using or the current market. He also didn’t let it stop him from trying again. Just as well because who knows whether we’d all be sat here in front of these laptops and computers today.
The people who take responsibility for themselves and for their actions are the ones who go the furthest. Take a moment to think about what excuses you have come up with recently. If you’re not where you want to be with your business or any aspect of your life, are you blaming external influences? What could YOU do to make a difference to YOUR situation? Probably quite a lot!
I hope you’ve found this inspiring, please let me know if you’ve ever found yourself in this scenario and what you did about or what you intend to do about it if you find yourself there now. Use the comments below, and don’t forget to like the facebook page!
Bye for now 🙂